I'm Intimidating

I must be. I've had two women at the studio tell me now that my first impression to them was one of intimidation. One of which absolutely loves me now and the other... well she sort of intimidates me. But what am I supposed to do?

It's a fine line to walk. I don't wanna (and can't) come across as the stereotypical flamboyant homo dance instructor that all the women find endearing and all the men are afraid of. I also don't want to be perceived as some jerk who thinks he's better than you. Now to be honest, she didn't know that I was an instructor at the time, and I was in an 'I'm new and I need to demonstrate my qualifications' mode; so she really thought I was just some jerk telling her to change something. But then I was told just how different I am from the, very popular, bubbly/happy female instructor... all from someone who's never even taken a class form me. In actual group classes I'm crackin jokes left and right and make things really relaxed. Maybe I need to act a little more fruit-salad to put the ladies at ease... but that might hurt my private lesson business...